Enjoying a Good Spanking

Why do my heroines submit to spankings, canings and whippings?

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Most of my heroines are strong, confident women. In many of my books and stories they start out less so, but throughout the story, their character develops. So why do these women submit to having the pain of a spanking or whipping inflicted upon them?

Many people think spanking in a sexual context is about domination, but it is the desire to be dominated by, to surrender control to, someone trusted, that is the true motivation. For some of my characters, the mental stimulation of that submission is paramount, for others, the sensations created by the pain can be their major motivation.

The pain and pleasure of a good spanking

Pain, inflicted skilfully and to just the right level can enhance sexual pleasure or even produce an orgasm without penetration. In a balanced relationship both the administrator and the receiver gain pleasure from the action, whether this is spanking, caning or whipping but, often, the relationship is balanced in favour of the submissive. To concentrate on delivering the correct amount of stimulation the person administering the spanking has to subsume their own feelings.

Read more about what happens during a spanking in The Science of Spanking

Will I like it?

Will I like it? is a basic human question when confronted with the opportunity to experience something new, whether it is a new food, skydiving or a sexual activity, especially if others find it pleasurable.

As an author, I have had the opportunity to interview a lot of people in the BDSM community. The two main tenants of real-life practitioners are consent and the ‘get out of jail free card’, usually a safe word. My favourite quote is:

“After the first few strokes the pain dulls. I feel as if I am floating on another plane. My whole body is alive and tingling. If the caner is good I will even come”

In fiction that features spankings, whippings and other BDSM practices the lines may become a little blurred. We are telling you a story, creating fiction, entertaining you. My heroines might place themselves in situations that would be dangerous in real life but they have a guardian angel - me, the writer. I have given them the motivations to bend over and bare their ass; those motivations are key part of my stories. More on that in Make It Believable

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